There are three of us in my marriage -- me, my wife and the "We." My wife and I cherish the presence of this third entity, the "We," which forms the triangle of our relationship. Its presence, as "our life," requires that both of us attend to its health. I advocate the acquiring of this "We" for every person, in any type of relationship. Relationships are wondrous and complex structures shaping human beings from womb to grave. Housing the challenges of life, relationships provide … [Read more...]

Our new President-Elect talks a lot about "bringing us together as a nation." That implies that we know how to relate to one another in a unifying manner. However, most of us are not very skilled at creating enriching relationships. Many of us take pride in our sense of independence. We believe ourselves to be separate from others. We often use our sense of "being different" as a protection against being disappointed, hurt or abandoned. We believe "my needs are different, so I … [Read more...]

An excerpt from the book Loving Relationships II (Celestial Arts) The soul draws toward itself the circumstances and people it needs for its highest development. In the same way, our karma and vibrational patterns draw us to the very person we need to help us grow. In all our personal interactions, we must help each other develop love and kindness. A personal relationship is a sacred responsibility - it should not be based on physical, intellectual, or emotional attraction alone. Such a … [Read more...]

"Relationships are work because they relate to creating a third entity and they are not about personal benefits." - Bernie Siegel, M.D. For more than 25 years, Pam and I have worked together on our relationship. From our first date, we seemed to share a deep connection. As the end of that date neared, we sat in my car, the street light illuminating our faces. We looked deeply into each other's eyes...not kissing, not talking, and yet there was a language of the soul occurring - a recognition. … [Read more...]