Everything changes. Everything moves. Nothing is static. Even in death, the molecules of our bodies are in continual motion. Your body is constantly changing, exchanging air, nutrients, etc. with the environment. Your energy is always interacting with the energy of others and the universe. We have all heard the expression, "the flow of life." When we resist that flow, we become hardened, brittle and easily broken. To create and maintain healthy relationships, we need to exchange … [Read more...]

I have spent the last 35 years of my professional career helping people to maximize the wellness of their lives. During that time, I have identified several principles which, if understood and followed, lead to health, wealth and happiness beyond our usual imaginings. Here are seven of those principles. If you don't learn the lesson now, it will return over and over again. So many of us are into quick and easy solutions to life's perceived problems. We take a "Band-Aid" approach. When … [Read more...]

Kahlil Gibran writes: "To be thirsty when your well is full, is a thirst, which is unquenchable." Many of us grow up believing in scarcity. If we didn't get enough of what we needed; if we had competitive brothers and sisters; if we were poor, needy or frightened of not having our needs adequately met; then we probably developed a "scarcity" orientation or belief system...a scarcity mentality. Your usual attitudes reflect either an abundant mentality or a scarcity mentality. … [Read more...]

Whether we like it or not, who we think we are determines how we function. All the information on successful achievement, all the information on why we fail, all the information on realizing our potential in life, boils down to who we believe ourselves to be...our self-concept. There are three basic ingredients that together create a self-concept. They are the ideal self, the self-image, and the amount of esteem you have for yourself. The ideal self is that toward which we move on our chosen … [Read more...]

Do you want a happy future? One where you are enjoying your lifestyle? A future where you take delight in being alive? Human beings are the only creatures on earth who can change their present circumstance in anticipation of the future. No other creature can consider the future, and then take action now which results in their desired future, in fact, becoming a reality. We are not forever victims of the past. As long as we are alive, we will influence the future by what we think, say and do … [Read more...]

In our culture, very few of us aspire to create a simple lifestyle. We equate successful living with earning more money, having a big house, accumulating many material possessions and advancing in our careers. We look to external events and possessions to create and validate our happiness. However, happiness is an internal state. It is not dependent upon externals. It is created by the choices we make, and the responses we choose to make into sub-conscious habits. In her book, Choosing … [Read more...]

If you want to change your life, begin by intending to do so. The power of intention is no longer in dispute. Its credibility was thoroughly examined back in 1990 by the National Academy of Sciences. This group "examined all the scientific studies to date on these methods [of intention] and declared them effective." Indeed, the power of intention can change your reality, your health, your career, your world, and your habits of thinking, feeling and behaving. Whether you call intention … [Read more...]

It's time we learned the distinction between sexual friendships and loving friendships. Each of us could probably have a lot more friendships, if we didn't sexualize our loving feelings for one another. Spouses could form loving friendships with either males or females without feeling threatened sexually. Men could love other men without fear of being labeled "gay." Women could lovingly bond with other women without being thought of as "lesbian." All our lives could be … [Read more...]

When I was in school, the highest premium was paid the kid who had the "right answers." Having the right answers got kids top grades, parental approval, peer group envy and often, loneliness. Most children were taught how to "be right" and "do the right thing." Very few were taught how to "be loved" and "be a loved person." If you had the choice, would you rather be right or loved? Not an easy question. I believe the old adage: "A person … [Read more...]

"Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory. I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve." These words, written by physician, Albert Schweitzer, express a vital truth: the more you give (serve) others, the happier you will be. You may think you have nothing worthy of giving, nothing of value you can contribute to others. Not true! History is full of … [Read more...]

One of the elements in human creativity is the ability to speculate about the accuracy of your own beliefs. History is filled with examples of creative people who questioned cultural - and their own - belief systems with wonderful and beneficial results. History is also replete with examples where belief systems have generated havoc.Today, it seems that religious and political beliefs have been turned into weaponry, justification for conflict, catalysts of separation, divisiveness and the … [Read more...]

It costs so much to become a whole human being that there are very few who have the enlightenment, or the courage, to pay the price. One has to abandon altogether the search for certainty and security, and reach out with both arms to embrace life with energy and passion. Like a lover, one has to embrace the world and their being alive within it. One has to accept both pain and pleasure as a condition of existence. One has to accept doubt and darkness as the cost of learning and having new … [Read more...]

"Family life just isn't what it used to be." "Sometimes I feel as if I don't belong to any family." "Our family life is falling apart and I don't know what to do about it." Each of these statements reflects an apparent social truth. Our families are, indeed, not what they used to be. The economic necessity for most families to have two incomes in order to financially survive (let alone lower their debt) contributes to the dissolution of the traditional family … [Read more...]

I recently called for each of us to take guiltless responsibility for creating our own health, preventing disease and healing ourselves to the best of our knowledge, ability and training. Today, I want to offer practical suggestions on precisely how to learn these skills. Actions to stop Stop smoking. If you don't smoke now, don't start. The quality of the air we breathe affects every cell in our bodies. When we inhale toxins, every cell, organ and internal system is disrupted from normal … [Read more...]

A few years ago, a good friend of mine suddenly died. At her memorial service we wept, prayed, listened to music, heard about her from friends and relatives, and sang. The song we sang was "Row, Row, Row Your Boat." The words to the song were printed on the program under the heading, "Our Song." As we sang, the words took on an entirely different meaning for me - a meaning far greater than the round usually sung by small children. Here was a group of adults singing it in … [Read more...]